It should be easy- walking through life staying true to your own, path. It is the only path that leads to true happiness. Why, then, do we so often fall short of this pursuit?
There is one word that always leads me astray. It is the word, "should." While this word may be mildly appropriate in raising children who are learning how to exist in the world, it should gradually fade with age.
Here is my own list of "shoulds" which span my life thus far:
So how do you get this happiness? Where is this path? You first must know where your true passions lie, what your path actually IS. This is done by "tuning" in, to everything. Here are a few suggestions for finding your own path:
I was truly amazed when I started scanning my life at how my daily activities weren't aligning to the passion of my heart. I thought about my happy "places" and realized they were places in nature. I saw how being in nature was crucial to me so I started organizing my time to include more of them. When I thought about my brief time in Art School and painting outside at Ghost Ranch I knew I needed more Art in my life and I enrolled in an online painting class. I spent less and less time with people who didn't light me up. New friends started coming into my life, because I knew what I wanted. I started backing away from responsibilities at work that were feeling "lifeless" even though there were some that still wanted my input. I stopped telling myself I "should" be riding my horses when all I really wanted was to spend time in the barn and be around them. I have a new tribe-people I truly love and feel nurtured by. I feel a healthy, positive energy flowing through me. In the face of life's storms and tears, my path is joy.